Relationship Health Checker

Answer the questions below to build a clearer picture of your relationship.
The system will then take the answers and offer advice without a humans emotional decision making playing any part of the answer to help you.

About Your Relationship

Relationship Questions

1. Do you feel emotionally safe with this person?

2. Can you raise concerns without fear of anger, blame or punishment?

3. Does this person take responsibility when they hurt you?

4. Do you feel like yourself in the relationship?

5. Has your confidence improved or declined since being with them?

6. Do they try to control who you see, what you do or how you live?

7. Are there repeated patterns of manipulation, guilt-tripping or gaslighting?

8. Is there verbal, emotional, physical, sexual or financial abuse?

9. Do the good moments feel consistent or mainly happen after arguments?

10. If nothing changed, would you be happy in this relationship in 12 months?

11. Has this person cheated, been unfaithful or seriously crossed relationship boundaries?

12. Do you trust them when they are out with friends or away from you?

13. Are they secretive with their phone, messages, social media or where they have been?

14. When trust has been damaged, do they help rebuild it with honesty and consistent behaviour?

Support After A Difficult Result

Leaving A Toxic Relationship Is Hard — But Staying Can Hurt More

When a relationship has become painful, confusing or controlling, walking away can feel impossible. This tool is designed to help you understand why leaving feels so difficult, why distance can help, and what small safe steps may support you.

Important: If you feel unsafe, threatened, controlled, trapped or at risk of harm, speak to someone you trust or contact emergency services. This tool is for reflection only and does not replace professional support.

Why It Feels So Hard To Leave

  • You may still love the good version of them.
  • You may fear being alone or starting again.
  • You may be holding onto memories, promises or potential.
  • The highs after arguments can make the relationship feel addictive.
  • You may have been made to feel responsible for their behaviour.

Why Getting Out Can Be Better

  • You can rebuild your confidence and self-worth.
  • You can stop living in survival mode.
  • You can reconnect with friends, family and your own identity.
  • You can make decisions without fear, pressure or guilt.
  • You create space for healthier love in the future.

Reflection Questions

Answer these questions honestly. There is no score shown — the aim is to help you think clearly.

1. Are you staying mainly because you are afraid of being alone?

2. Do you often excuse their behaviour because of the good times?

3. Do you feel emotionally drained more often than supported?

4. Do you feel guilty when you think about leaving?

5. Would you want someone you care about to stay in the same relationship?

Small Safe Steps To Consider

  1. Write down what has happened so you can see patterns clearly.
  2. Speak to one trusted person instead of carrying it alone.
  3. Make a private plan before making big decisions.
  4. Keep important documents, money, phone access and transport in mind.
  5. Get professional help if there is control, fear, abuse or risk.

This content is educational and supportive only. If there is immediate danger, contact emergency services.

This tool is for awareness and reflection only. It does not replace professional advice, counselling, legal guidance or emergency support. If you feel unsafe or at risk, speak to someone you trust or contact emergency services.

Relationship Health Checker

Is Your Relationship Healthy or Toxic?

Understanding your relationship isn’t always easy. Emotions, history, and hope can make it difficult to see things clearly. That’s why we created the Relationship Health Checker — a simple, private tool designed to help you reflect on your relationship and spot the signs that really matter.

By answering a series of carefully structured questions, you’ll receive a personalised insight into your relationship — highlighting whether things feel healthy, uncertain, or potentially toxic. This isn’t about judgement. It’s about clarity.

How Does the Relationship Checker Work?

Our tool looks at key areas that define a healthy relationship, including:

  • Emotional safety and trust
  • Communication and conflict resolution
  • Respect and accountability
  • Control, manipulation, and red flags
  • Long-term happiness and stability

Each answer is weighted to give you a clear overall picture, helping you better understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.

Why Use a Relationship Health Test?

Many people stay in unhealthy relationships longer than they should — often because the warning signs build slowly over time. This tool helps bring those patterns into focus so you can make informed decisions about your future.

Whether you’re feeling unsure, noticing changes, or simply want reassurance, this relationship test gives you a moment of honest reflection.

Important Disclaimer

This tool is designed for guidance and awareness only. It does not replace professional advice or counselling. If you feel unsafe, controlled, or at risk in any way, please seek help from a trusted person or a qualified professional.

Ready to get clarity? Take the Relationship Health Checker below.

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